Wednesday, February 23, 2011


Melt downs are a privilege to those that serve as the stay at home partner or the partner that only works part-time but deals with the rest of the crap every day. Thus, this person is entitled to their fair share of melts of voicing their needs, wants, and being listened too.

The other partner should listen, think, and act accordingly to help the said partnes having melt downs to correct what is causing the melt downs.

I know I am currently in melt down mode. At least my partner is responding to the point, I am not as upset as I was.

The Harlequinn by Laurell K. Hamilton

OMG..Laurell does it again. This book is great. Look at the quotes I have posted from the book. Laurell, I would love to meet you personally because girl you hit the nail on the head with your writting. Trying to figure bits and pieces out about yourself then Laurell K. Hamilton does for you with her character Anita Blake.

Background: Anita and Jean-Claude master vampire have been stirring the bucket of politics withing several different groups. The most powerful the vampire council. In doing so, the harlequin have been sent to supposedly observe not destroy, however, in most political observation some jump the "gun" to the destroyed department. For more down load of the book, read it yourself.

Riddle me this: Why is it that there is mever a line for the men's room, but the women's always seems to have one? I did my bit in line and then finally got into the stall. At least it was clean.

Okay, this happens not just at the movie theatre but all events. Why is it that only the women's restroom has an ungodly line to go to the bathroom.

"You hate most in others what you don't like in yourself."

Hmm-I wonder if we all looked in the mirror and said do I really hate myself for that trait quality what would we do to change that..

Sometimes "practical" and "ruthless" wer just different words for the same thing.

Another hmm moment, so, how practical or ruthless are we in our lives?

I'd tried to be his friend, but somehow the sex had ruined that. I think without sex we could have been friends, but with it...with it we neither friends, nor boyfriend ro girlfriend. We were lovers but... I had no words for what was wrong between us but I could feel it, like an old ache in a wound you thought had healed.

Hello! How can you not stop in your life to say, I feel the same way about my relationship is going. Though the other person may not see it.The other person is probably sticking their head in the sand and ignoring the fact. Its easy to ignore than deal with it.

" I spent centuries being given to masters that didn't give a damn what I wanted or needed. You love Nathenield and he loves you, but eventually, needs left unanswered can curdle love like milk left to spoil in the sun."

You have to ask to have your needs meet in a relationship. If you haven't spoken what you need then your partner can't help. If you have spoken your needs, and your partner doesn't try at all to meet your needs then it maybe time for counseling or to restate what your needs and they aren't being meet. Something I discovering, to be my own advocate in my relationship.


"I'm tired of running from myself."

I wasn't sure that answered the question, but Richard seemed to think it did, and I felt Micah not behind me. "Stop running"

So, simply stated but so hard to do when its ourselves we are running from.

The smile slipped away from her face, and I saw something I hadn't expected for a moment: fear.

I see this often in the eyes of those around. I don't know how to make the fear go away from them. Its not fear of me but of other things in their lives. I know they must face it one day.

She leaned over to take my hand, saying, "In this world I would rather live two days like a tiger than a hunderd years like a sheep."

I think this talking about fear. I do believe that when we let fear rule our lives we are sheep. If we face it like a tiger then fear doesn't rule our lives.

He'd always be bound to use in a triumvirate of power, but we'd be broken up. It would be like being trapped in a relationship with someone you'd divorced but could never completely get rid of. A little slice of hell, that.

If that ain't the truth, then what is. This perfectly describes how a couple that divorces and has kids between feel about each. They are still in hell if they choose to make hell.

Though to him, sometimes seduction was business, but not this morning.

I have known people, "business" people that were like this.

But the coffee was good. I sipped it black, because the first cup should always be black. It's the morning slap in the face that lets you know you're awake.

I can't drink coffee black. Sorry but it is too bitter for me. Though, I totally get the slap in the face its morning.

"Its the lady's privilege to keep a man waiting."

To all spouses of that get upset that their spouses take too long getting ready. Remember this line and this line only. Its our privilege to keep you waiting. You should learn patiences.

"I'm treating this the way i treat an emergancy in th middle of a police investigation, Richard. You don't get too hung up on the horrible details or you stop being able to function. You keep moving forward, because you have to."

For those that don't react loosing their cool in situation after situation then this is what applies to them. I know often I don't over react as some would. I am called weird or strange. I have to keep going. For if I don't, who will keep the torch burning.

"What I meant was the loving people changes you. It's changed me, too. I'm softer in some ways, harder in others. I haven't compromised myself as much as you."

Anybody home? This is normal reaction in a relationship.

"A lady always makes a man want to be better than he is. "

"Only love of a good woman will make a man question every choice, every action. Only love makes a warrior hesitate for feat that his lady will find him cruel. Only love makes a man both best he will ever be, and the weakest. Sometimes all in the same moment."

Hello, for all the men or those in the man position of a relationship, read, listen, and think. It's that special person in your life that makes you better.

I offerred gentleness. I offerred love. If I hadn't tasted Malcolm's power only moments before, maybe, I couldn't have done it, but his intent was so pure, so unselfish, that it was like the ardeur had learned a new flavore, I offerred that flavor to them. I offerred them a choice. I gave them cool water and safety.

She should have remembered that people have gieven everything they own, everything they are, to be taken care of, and to have their pain gone. It's the lure of cults: the promise of a good family; it's what people think love is, but love isn't absence of pain, it's a hand to hold while you're going through it.

Anyone ever else wonder this but can't find the answer. Here it is..think on it.

Thursday, February 17, 2011

Chore Bucks and chore Charts

Okay if you are like me, you try to raise your kids to be responsible and trustworthy, get them ready for what having a job is going to be like by having chores, including an allowance which another term for paycheck.

Though with tough economic times, its hard to always have cash on hand to pay said allowance. So, this is a solution that is awesome. Pretend chore bucks, I have a downloadable file I can email to you if you are interested in trying it in your home. Instead of handing out cash on a weekly you had out the chore bucks. They have the right to keep it to have cash paid later, turn it in for a 2 litter of soda of their choosing, a box of movie candy at the local store, or a redbox movie. If they save it and get cash, then they must have a percentage paid to a savings account, a percentage to charity, and a percentage to their wallets for spending. A rule of thumb is 10% for said doing. I also have started saying you want that name brand item save your chore bucks. Seriously, it has helped curved the I wannas in my house.

I have sparked your interest. email you will receive an email back with a chore chart and chore bucks that will be in jpg form.

Tuesday, February 15, 2011

Lesson Learned

My kids have been told don't feed the puppy table food. This is something pretty regularly repeated like a broken record. Well, apparently the puppy got a hold of some doritos today. Wonder how? Uh hum..

Well, dear puppy puked them back up.

They now know for sure no table food for puppy.

Quick question if the chips make the dog much damage are we doing to our bodies by eatting to many chips?

Friday, February 11, 2011

Puppy..Puppy Puppy

Our house has puppy love. We love our new puppy. She is now up to 2.80 lbs from the time Santa brought her to our house in December 2010.
Our lives now revolved around the puppy. Its so much fun. Check out her picture. How can you not love this little one.
We do!

Dead and Gone by Charlaine Harris

This book totally took me by surprise. I wasn't expecting the ending, nor the events that took place throughout the book. The tv series is combining alot of different parts from several different books. If you haven't read the series yet, then you won't know what I am talking. Am I putting the True Blood Series down? Nope, I really do enjoy the show very much. Needless to say, I am looking for to season 4 of the show, and to the next book.
Fae Wars, Vampire take over, true love conflict and much more..

Tuesday, February 1, 2011

Incubus Dreams by Laurell K. Hamilton

p. 24 In fact, he mirrored back so exactly what I wanted, what I needed , that it made me wonder if I knew him at all, or if I saw was what he wanted me to see.

He was too perfect. Too perfect what I needed hime to be. that had to be and act right? Nobody was perfectly what you needed them to be, everybody disappointed you in some way, right?"

I think this is how we truly look at relationships because starting young we get disappointed by our parents. It is very sad that we don't understand ourselves like we should.


(Jason speaking)He sighed, "You shut it down on the dance floor. That's not control, not really. It's like you have a gun, and you can lock it in the gun safe, but that doesn't teach you how to shoot it."

(Anita Blake speaking)"I do not **** the people I take care of. It would be like taking advantage of your position."

(Jason speaking) "Anita, what I'm trying to say is that Nathaniel doesn't feel used. He feels useful. He doesn't need a girlfriend, because he thinks he already has one. He doesn't want to date, because he's already living with someone. He doesn't need to look for a place of his own, because he already has one. Micah knows that, Nathaniel knows that, the only person who doesn't know that seems to be be you."

first line I quoted- I just like the line sorry. No words of wisdom here. It can apply so much in our lifes about so many different things.

Second line area I quoted-I have say, I think that all of us to a degree feel this way about others. We do not want to take advantage of them but to a degree we do take advantage or better stated we do not full appreciate those near and dear to us until its too late.

Third line area I quoted-How many of us are blind to the truths that literary sit in front of our faces on a daily basis. Uh? come on...think truly think about this for awhile.

In fact, it seemed easy to make a lot of sense, but inside, it felt hard. Inside it felt like the hardest thing in the world. To just let go, and not pick everything to d eath. To just let go and enjoy whaty ou had. To just let go and not make everybody around you miserable with your own internal dialogue. To just let go and be happy. So Simple. So difficult. So Teffifying.

Wow! Can I say, that this in itself so be the most quoted passage that we as a people need to learn about relationships to a degree. Its better to let it go than pick a fight. How many can't or won't let go of something.

"That's not my message to you, you know I never mind you asking my advice. I actually kind of like it. Who else have you been asking advice from?"

I opened my mouth, and closed it. "I prayed"

"What I'm getting is that you usually only pray when you're out of other options that you like. It might be nice if you prayed as something other than a lasts resort." She said it so matter-of-factly. Nothing big, you prayed. God can't talk to you, so her left a messag on your machine. Great.

I licked my suddenly dry lips, andsaid, "It doesn't bother you that you just took a message from God for me?"

"Well, it wasn't from him directly. He just sent it."

Okay totally get this passage. Hello, how many of us only pray when we want something or need something for ourselves when we are totally sick of the options in front of us. Though those options are the only true options. Seriously, what if we stopped and truly looked at what we needed to do. Could we say, we had the ability to accept it, do it, and deal with consquences when they came.

"Panic that freezes your body numbs your mind, makes you forget everything that you've learned about how to make your body a weapon, and all that is left is a small screaming voice inside your head that mkaes you a victim. If you can't think and can't move, then your are victim. That is why panic will get you killed."

I refuse to be a victim of anything any more. Serioulsy. Not to my allergies, not to frustration, not to stress, not to being treated like idiot that can't remember what is happening on what day. Seriously, I am not a victim. It freaks people out the way I stay calm through situations. Though, why panic. There is no need.

" was the emotional scars torn open and spilled my heart out into my skin. You fight so hard, so long, to cut someone out of your heart, but isn'ts not always yoru heart taht betrays you."

"What is love? Sometimes it's just letting yourself be wh0 and what you are, and letting the person you're suppose to love be who and what he is, too. Or maybe, what and who they are."

Every person who is in a healthy relationship or even a non-healthy relationship, stop read this pharse. This doesn't mean you get to belittle, put down, or make your partner feel less than you. They are your equal. You want them to be accepting of you then you be accepting of them.

"Sex doesn't make you a couple, Richard, love makes you a couple."

All the southern belle or bellos don't even go off the deep end saying, I'm in endorsing sex before marriage. I'm not. I'm simply letting everyone know that it takes more than sex to make a relationship work. Seriously, its just the rewards of the other steps you take to make it as a couple. So, for any teens reading this, wait on having sex. It's worth the wait.

"Just angry. You get angry whenever you get uncomfortable, and what happened in the kitchen is going to hit a lot of buttons for you."

Okay, everyone that doesn't understand or totally get their partner, don't get angry because you can't physical and mentally figure out what they meant or are doing. Let it go..

Sometimes the partso fo my life that are weirdest to me aren't the part dealing with vampires and werewolves and zombies. Even vampires politics didn't confuse me as much as my own love life.

"Give a truly good person power, and they're still a good person. Give truly bad person power, and their still a bad person. The question is always about the person in between. Thaeon tht isn't evil, or good, but just ordinary. You don't always know what an ordinary person is like on the inside."

In light of recent events of our time, this is a very bold statement of our society as a whole.


"I broke some personal rules tonight, that's all."
"Rules that you thought you would never be broken," Requiem said softly.
I looked at him surprised. "You say that like you know."
"A person likes to think of himse ina certain way, whe nwhen something happens that make that no longer possible, you mourn the old self. The person you thought you were."

Put the brakes on everyone that is in the middle of self-hate and self destruct mode. Why are you in that mode? OH! You broke a few personal rules. Mourn it, get it over it, and move on. This coming from someone who broke a few of her own personal rules.

Demon? If she though Requiem was a demon, she'd never sone one for real. I had, and i know the difference.

I hear this saying in the Bible, I hear it in songs as " personal demons" etc. I have seen my fair share of demons whither it is of a family secret demons of other people's inability to accept who they are I can honestly most people wouldn't know it if it walked up and shoke their hands politely. Basically, what it is saying before casting judgment check out your own sins.

He turned at the bathroom door, and aid, "****, Anita, you are the better man in any relationship. Just because you don't have the right equipment , doesn't change what you are."

Okay, I am inturpting this as it doesn't matter who's on top in the relationship. The better person is the one that thinks of others before themselves and doesn't give a crap what others think about the relationship. Meaning, that if my DH could stay at home with the kids and be sahd of the house he would be. He would gladly let me bring in the income if I could make more than he.

Let go. It sounded so simple. But letting go of anythign was so not my best thing. I wasn't even sure I knew how to do it. How do you let go? How do you openjd your hand and let yourself fall, and trust that other people will catch you? That they'll catch you and not let you hurt them, or yourself. Did I trust Nathaniel and Jason that much? Sort of.

Did I trust anyone that much? Maybe. Okay, not really. I took a deep breath, let it out slow, and I let go. I let go. I lget and trusted. Trusted, even as a small voice inside me whispered, stupid, stupid, stupid.

Okay a reoccuring theme this week in quotes and real for me. The two words, "let go". Hmm, how many people have the same trouble. If that was a knock on the door from heaven, to let us know to let go and let God.

"I'm what you call an addictive personality. Do you know what that means officer?"

"It means if you can't drink, you've got to be addicted to something." I said.

He smiled , and really looked at me for me the first. Not just like I was a cop come to hassle him, but like I was a person.

"Yeah, yeah, my counselor wouldn't like that definition, no siree she would not. But, yeah, that's the truth. Some people are lucky, and kits just they're addicted to drinking, or smoking, or whatever, but for those ofuse are just addicted tobeing addicted, anything'll do.

Okay, this is a really important section for those who have an family member(s) or spouse with this. They have to be addicted to something. Even if they stop the bad stuff they turn to food, sugary drinks, or other things they need to replace the other addiction. I know..I watch a family member(s) struggle with this all the time.